If we want to change something that we do, we have to actively make a decision. It won’t happen just by wishing. We might want to quit smoking, or lose weight, or stop being controlled by our addiction. Knowing how to use this For and Against Decision Making Chart can help us decide to change what we do, and also to successfully stick to that decision into the future.
Most people don’t wake up one morning and say to themselves, ‘I think I’ll stop drinking today’, and then never drink alcohol ever again. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple.
We need to have a plan to follow - a cheat sheet – something we can turn to, that reinforces our commitment whenever we are on the brink of returning to our old ways – when the rational side of our brain (that does not want to relapse), is under attack from the irrational demands and cravings of an addiction. Continue reading
Support groups for family members can really make a huge difference in situations where all the relationships are dominated by one person’s addiction and you don’t know where to turn next. Even if you cannot persuade your addicted family member to reach out for help, people who are living in their sphere of influence, can seek help and get great benefits from receiving support by people in similar circumstances – people who know exactly what you are going through, and who will not judge you. In support groups for family and friends, you will learn that you are not alone. You will also be able to share your pain with others and give support as well. Giving support to others can be very beneficial in restoring hope, in what feels like a hopeless situation. Continue reading
We all know that making a resolution to change our ways is often not sustained over time. We all fail with our good intentions to change and do better, and we fall back into what is comfortable, and easy to do. That’s normal. Every year, many of us make New Year Resolutions, which we know in our hearts will only last for a few weeks or months, at the most. We understand that, and we forgive ourselves for our failings, and the failings of others, who fail in similar ways.
The Goal of Rehab
It is very much harder for anyone with an addiction to keep to his or her good intentions. Why? Anyone with an addiction, or who has ever had an addiction, is fighting against a formidable foe. The goal of entering Rehab is to come out at the end of the course of treatment, abstinent, emotionally stronger, and much better equipped to fight and overcome, the power of addiction.
This is done in a number of ways, Continue reading
Studies have shown that in certain circumstances, the brain activity of someone with an addiction, functions differently, compared to the way that the brains of non-addicted people function. These functional differences develop gradually over time, as the addiction develops.
The ability of modern science to study brain function has helped to explain why people with addictions all have similar characteristic patterns of behavior and thoughts, whether their addiction is to drugs, or gambling or any other potentially addictive activity.
This scientific knowledge helps to answer the question of why addicts always crave more, and why they become increasingly driven by this need. It helps to explain why it is, that even when people with an addiction wish to regain control over their addiction, they find they cannot. Continue reading